11 November, 2009

images of a man

i've been thinking lately about images, ideas, stereotypes of men. the first insight i've noticed is that the image i have of myself in my head is very different from my actual image - the image the public sees. i definitely think looking ambiguous for so long has had a large impact on this image because while i know i look male, i look a lot less male in my head. i can still see pieces of my female self in my face when i look in the mirror - i don't necessarily anticipate never being able to see that person again when i look in the mirror, though i worry that others will see that female side. why all of the worry?! i keep telling myself to have patience, to give myself time to grow and change. it does get frustrating though when i know and feel like a mature man in his mid-twenties, but my body is still playing catch-up.

second insight i've come upon is how this frustration impacts my physical expectations of my own body. when i get frustrated with my body i often day dream about maturing into a tall, muscular, bearded man. while i know that i have some control over my body - being muscular and in shape - there are other things such as my height and my facial hair that i have no control over. it's really just a matter of accepting the things i cannot control. while i am a man, i am not a "typical" man...maybe more like man born from extraordinary circumstances. i am constantly reminding myself that this is the body i was born into and that there is only so much i can change physically - the other changes have to occur upstairs, in my mind.

along with all of this, i do not regret the fact that i was born into a female body (i'll explore the phrase "born into the wrong body" later...). while this body has brought upon many struggles and difficulties, it has also allowed me to experience life in a way that many other people do not get to experience. i have lived in many worlds and spectrums and have been fortunate enough to live and grow from all of these perspectives. i am a collection of perspectives, life experiences, journeys, identities, ideas, perceptions and am intelligent enough to realize how learning from the past, taking from the past, dealing with life as it has been dealt to me, understanding and having an awareness of what i can and cannot control is the only way in my personal journey i can come to a sense of peace.

peace.

3 comments:

Mcgregor said...

Speechless.........

Jenna said...

Luke, reading your blog, in many ways, is like reading a paraphrased transcript of my own life too.

I know what it's like to look in the mirror and still see the person you thought you were leaving behind yet also see the person you're becoming. It's kinda weird but kinda cool at the same time.

Acceptance is the key, honestly. In my life I had always heard about how "those of variant genders" had to "fight" for acceptance, etc. I fell in with that crowd quite easily and took on the acceptance torch as well. The funny thing is, I forgot to accept myself in the process. Oh I was able to accept who I was at the time, but not who I had been before.

It's a journey... and every journey has a start. So to accept the journey, you have to accept every point along the way or it doesn't add up to the same thing. If you catch my drift. :)

Anyway... nice to hear from you again on your blog. Keep on keepin' on and enjoy it all along the way.

Peace,
Jenna

BTW: Did I mention that you're cute? Well you are. There, now I've mentioned it. :)

Luke said...

Jenna! Thanks as always for your comments! I like the way you put it..."you have to accept every point along the way..." - true story! Keep on keepin' on as well, looking forward to reading more from you on your blog! Peace